Learn: Compassion

 

Guidelines

Hi! My name's Elize but I go by EAFverit social media wise. Thought I'd introduce myself before I provide my thoughts to a living stranger. Of course, my content here is public for everyone to see. You see, I've become a bit anti-social over the years and it can be a bit or more problematic when interacting with one another.

Relevance comes from me, having to view my frequent loss in interviews to not even attending them or other events in my life that I've come to a conclusion. I feel like I've lost touch with myself, but I know I still am my own person just like the rest of us. So here I am remembering myself from back then when I wasn't so selfish and self-seeking as I am now that I really hate these factors I carry.

This is advice that emphasizes building self-awareness, practicing empathy, and connecting with others in a compassionate way that seeks to understand rather than judge.

PS. not only selfishly because some have called this manipulative, but it is smart to use when you know it's also helping the other person. Even if it may not be for yourself to follow, we can't go wrong with caring for others. As soon as someone finds out you're just following something of a post or blog that you have no experience with, stick with it because your acts will become your identity. Let me know if that makes sense, thanks.

Observe and try to understand perspectives and motivations. Avoid judgment.

Or in other words, watch and listen.

Psst...Plz, plz zoom in on me and stare at my face. ↑

Practice mindful awareness when interacting with others because it helps us stay present rather than getting distracted by our own judgments or assumptions. Knowing that, notice your thoughts and feelings. 

Make eye contact and give your full focus when listening to someone speak. Don't just wait for your turn to talk.  Show the other person they have our full attention and their perspective matters.

Ask open-ended questions demonstrates our genuine interest in understanding their thoughts and feelings to gain insight into how someone thinks and feels. Listen carefully to their responses without interruption.

Don't make assumptions about someone's motivations or perspectives. Our tendencies, values and thinking processes differ based on upbringing, experiences, personality, culture etc. That prevents our own biases from clouding our view of someone else's motivations.

Avoid quick judgments about a person's character or worth based on limited interactions or observations. We are all complex beings with nuances that take time to understand.

Have patience with those who may have different communication styles and focus on human connection. It overrides differences in communication styles that could divide us. What do you think?

Consider the context someone is speaking or acting from. For example, how might their family, health, economic situation be influencing them? It promotes understanding of how someone's unique situation shapes them. We all act from our circumstances.

Reflect on your own biases and tendency to judge. We all have them. Can you set them aside to see someone clearly? This is a bit self-reflecting itself in order to be selfless for another. Creating the self-awareness needed to see others clearly and impartially.

Recognize that hurtful or unskillful behavior often arises from inner pain or suffering. Can you respond with compassion rather than reactive judgment? Recognizing inner pain prevents reactive judgment and instead generates empathy and care.

The key is observing others (and yourself) with wisdom, empathy and an openness to understand rather than harshly judge. This applies both in conflict and in everyday interactions.

Practice empathy by imagining yourself in someone else's situation. Seek to understand people different than yourself.

Study evidence-based therapeutic techniques like cognitive behavioral therapy and motivational interviewing. Use them to help yourself and others.